"Mourning is an action not a transaction. It is our personal responsibility, so we do not do it with the perpetrators of our losses, including out parents. We interrupt our own healing as long as we still have to tell our parents how bad we think they were. It is, however, appropriate to ask our parents for information about what happened to us. If you do tell your parents about your grief work, be sure you are telling to share information, not trying to convince them they were wrong, hurt them, or get back at them."
