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Here is a letter received from a friend and my response. I really would love people to add their thoghts to expand my own understandings and beliefs ...
"yesterday seemed to be a better day than usual. i seemed to be not over reacting or for that matter giving deep thought to things. the whole day went off smoothly except for night time where the tele show made me excited. i left the room immediately and began to write it all down in the paper as you said and left that paper in the bible. i was thinking later i should have burned it but as you suggested i should leave it with god. i hope god reads it.
a friend has suggested i go and meeet a cardiologist. i dont know if that would help. let me see how that pans out. but it would wasteage to go in for all these tests when i know that i am not in the right frame of mind.
i read a passage last night from the bible, it was icidently about a rich man who wanted to follow christ. christ told him to forgo all his wealth to the poor to follow him. he turned away dijected. he was a very rich man.
what idid not understand from this parable was that does being christian mean to be poor?
i am glad to interact wiht yoou again. my wife is going back to our previous employee today and that should loosen up my shoulders a bit on the financial front. i do need a break from work and fast. thanks for all your support. i do hope to meet you sooner rather than later.
yes i find it difficult to live wiht my mom these days but i guess marriage does that to you. i only pray that my mom is able to get over all her inhibitions about her daughter in laws"
my reply
"you really do put action in.
This sounds such a good start. Remember changes are the action and trust that the changes within you will happen so long as you keep putting in action. The insane ting to do is to continue doing the same thing expecting a different result.
I too am glad to hear from you. I feel as if you allow me to be a fiend to you and feel honoured that you feel able to make contact when you need a friendly ear (or eye) and I can spout off my suggestions which gives me great pleasure.It works well for both of us.
It is good to step back a little from work and observe everyone putting aside the stress. Don't forget to take 5 minutes here and there throughout the day just for yourself. Go and breathe and be quiet. Also call a friend just to make contact with people and say how the morning has been or the afternoon.
Call people who can listen to you and acknowledge your feelings without fuelling the anxiety or stress. All you need to do is to ask people to listen and understand.
Once you start observing then it will become clearer to you what action needs to be taken and by whom. When you're all involved emotionally it is not easy to see what needs to be done, it'll all be reactionary.
Yes it's interesting isn't it this idea of being Christian can mean poverty. Oddly enough the Dalai Lama talks about having a balance - financial wealth, health, hobbies and interests, family life, social life, work life, morals and principles. With all these in balance we can trust that our well-being will be taken care of. Health involves healthy eating, enough rest, and so on but not over doing it. Financial wealth means recognising what we have is enough to meet our needs, family life means spending time with people, remaining an individual but also working on the gap between each individual and the same goes for friendship.
In the book The Prophet by Kahil Gabril he says - "give your hearts but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together; for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow in each other's shadow."
I do not think for one minute to be Chrisian means to be poor. But it means to be content with enough and therefore in that gratitude you can relinquish stress. Trusting in Jesus and God means that you know you will be OK whatever happens. If you should lose your job trust that all will be well. It will be different and there maybe luxuries that have to be forsaken but so long as you have shelter and food and water and love then all will be well. Looking back things may have been stressful because of your attachment to money. Things get out of balance. It needs not to be the most important focus.
These are just early thoughts when I too often stress about my lack of finances and not knowing how to cover costs as they arise. I do not earn lots of money. I used to and to be honest I wasn't happy then either. I have lost a lot over the years - being frivolous often. I've had and I've lost. When I look over these times I have always been OK - not financially rich but OK. Wat I need to work on is finding contentment in life itself. Money can buy things but it cannot buy contentment. It can contribute to memories for sure, I can look back in euphoria and believe that doing this or that due to being able to afford to was a great time. But was it really? Yes and no - there were good elements to it but it didn't buy me inner bliss. It didn't buy me inner love. It didn't buy me inner wisdom. It didn't buy me true faith. This things can be found only within myself rich or poor. Stress deteriorates well being. So is the pursuit of financial wealth worth it?
I know in this country money drives the society. This current Government are supporters of private enterprise and self gain. I prefer to be a more socialist person and share the wealth so that everyone can have a taste of good living. Of course I can be selfish, very selfish. I want nice things and more of them. I want private healthcare so that I don't have to wait and worry about second rate service, I want a nice car, I want to travel and bathe in different cultures and experience different parts of this glorious world, I want I want I want. But the more I have the more I want. This is not necessary. You see I love to learn and I learn through travels. But I can do that any time if I just trust. I have legs to carry me. IN reality that's all I need. But no I want to be able to do it with comforts and certainty.
It appears as if money buys certainty. I think if we look closer then it really doesn't.
I wonder what your Priest would say about your question. I'd like to know more of what your thoughts are to your question.
J can I suggest that each morning you get up slightly earlier and take 30 minutes just to sit in contemplation. Follow your thoughts in your stillness. You may already do something like this. I don't mean in prayer just in quiet contemplation. Take yourself to a quiet room and ask that your wife and your mom respect your quiet time. This should become a daily practice. I'd love to say that I am disciplined at it. I am not but I practice at it. I will take my quiet time now as a result of suggesting this to you. I missed it earlier this morning.
I'm glad your wife is supporting your hard work by seeking employment herself. Is she happy to find work? Did you discuss this together? I hope it was a discussion and not a one way conversation on either part.
JK where might I find the Parables in the Bible. Excuse my ignorance. I too am interested to read them. Maybe one per day. I like to discuss these things with people and discover their interpretation. It all helps me to broaden my understanding of this crazy, wonderful world we live in.
You need to make time to visit with your mom you know. Even though you all live in the same house. This may sound crazy, but I think it would be good to invite your mom to join you and your wife for afternoon tea or something. Just sit and chat about anything and nothing - make it a 45 minute together time once a week. Or maybe all take a stroll together.
If it's difficult to live together then you need to make some changes to the ways in which you are living together. You cannot change them - your mom nor your wife but you can change you - that can be thoughts, attitude, action, beliefs.
And don't forget to pray for your mom - pray for her to be happy, healthy and to have prosperity. Pray for he to have everything you desire for yourself.
This has reminded me to pray for my new boss who I find very difficult to be around. I can all too easily blame her for causing my difficulty. She is how she is and it's me that feels the way I do. That is not her fault. So I have to find ways to be tolerant and patient and understanding. I need to listen to her. I have become aware that she does not respond well to me making suggestions even when it might be to help her understand the system. She for some reason needs to be in total control. So I can be humble. That is not forsaking myself, that is a choice to let her have the power that seems to need to feel safe. It is hard work for me to do this and very so often I forget during the day. I can feel the need because it gets stressful and emotionally draining again. That is my signal to myself that I've tried to take some power from her. I am thankful for these reminders even though they hurt me - not physically although it does manifest in physical tiredness. But I notice my intolerance and impatience building up and my anger, which can result in energising itself through behaviour. When I'm gossipping for example this is my anger coming out. I do not like to gossip or to be nasty about anyone. When I get to that stage it requires more urgent action.
You see I am beginning to become very much more aware and listen to the signs God creates in me. Then I can choose to be different and maintain my serenity once again. By the grace of God .....
So J. I need to phone a car insurance company now. I dread this as I really cannot afford it and yet I cannot get out of this village to work without a car. I am dependant and can get stressed by this. I need to trust that God is taking care of my needs even though at times I do not understand the way He does this.
So now I need to have the courage to call. I am always scared that they will judge me - points on my licence, an accident and last year I was refused insurance because I gave some false information. I feel so ashamed. I didn't do it on purpose but I feel ashamed anyway. So then I get scared to call and then time passes and it becomes more urgent and then I end up making more mistakes.
This is insanity- so instead I need to be responsible and make the calls. I have a couple to make.
Thank you for listening to me.
Sending you strength and praying for your faith to be strong.
With peaceful thoughts"
Bliss
X
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Here is a letter received from a friend and my response. I really would love people to add their thoghts to expand my own understandings and beliefs ...
"yesterday seemed to be a better day than usual. i seemed to be not over reacting or for that matter giving deep thought to things. the whole day went off smoothly except for night time where the tele show made me excited. i left the room immediately and began to write it all down in the paper as you said and left that paper in the bible. i was thinking later i should have burned it but as you suggested i should leave it with god. i hope god reads it.
a friend has suggested i go and meeet a cardiologist. i dont know if that would help. let me see how that pans out. but it would wasteage to go in for all these tests when i know that i am not in the right frame of mind.
i read a passage last night from the bible, it was icidently about a rich man who wanted to follow christ. christ told him to forgo all his wealth to the poor to follow him. he turned away dijected. he was a very rich man.
what idid not understand from this parable was that does being christian mean to be poor?
i am glad to interact wiht yoou again. my wife is going back to our previous employee today and that should loosen up my shoulders a bit on the financial front. i do need a break from work and fast. thanks for all your support. i do hope to meet you sooner rather than later.
yes i find it difficult to live wiht my mom these days but i guess marriage does that to you. i only pray that my mom is able to get over all her inhibitions about her daughter in laws"
my reply
"you really do put action in.
This sounds such a good start. Remember changes are the action and trust that the changes within you will happen so long as you keep putting in action. The insane ting to do is to continue doing the same thing expecting a different result.
I too am glad to hear from you. I feel as if you allow me to be a fiend to you and feel honoured that you feel able to make contact when you need a friendly ear (or eye) and I can spout off my suggestions which gives me great pleasure.It works well for both of us.
It is good to step back a little from work and observe everyone putting aside the stress. Don't forget to take 5 minutes here and there throughout the day just for yourself. Go and breathe and be quiet. Also call a friend just to make contact with people and say how the morning has been or the afternoon.
Call people who can listen to you and acknowledge your feelings without fuelling the anxiety or stress. All you need to do is to ask people to listen and understand.
Once you start observing then it will become clearer to you what action needs to be taken and by whom. When you're all involved emotionally it is not easy to see what needs to be done, it'll all be reactionary.
Yes it's interesting isn't it this idea of being Christian can mean poverty. Oddly enough the Dalai Lama talks about having a balance - financial wealth, health, hobbies and interests, family life, social life, work life, morals and principles. With all these in balance we can trust that our well-being will be taken care of. Health involves healthy eating, enough rest, and so on but not over doing it. Financial wealth means recognising what we have is enough to meet our needs, family life means spending time with people, remaining an individual but also working on the gap between each individual and the same goes for friendship.
In the book The Prophet by Kahil Gabril he says - "give your hearts but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together; for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow in each other's shadow."
I do not think for one minute to be Chrisian means to be poor. But it means to be content with enough and therefore in that gratitude you can relinquish stress. Trusting in Jesus and God means that you know you will be OK whatever happens. If you should lose your job trust that all will be well. It will be different and there maybe luxuries that have to be forsaken but so long as you have shelter and food and water and love then all will be well. Looking back things may have been stressful because of your attachment to money. Things get out of balance. It needs not to be the most important focus.
These are just early thoughts when I too often stress about my lack of finances and not knowing how to cover costs as they arise. I do not earn lots of money. I used to and to be honest I wasn't happy then either. I have lost a lot over the years - being frivolous often. I've had and I've lost. When I look over these times I have always been OK - not financially rich but OK. Wat I need to work on is finding contentment in life itself. Money can buy things but it cannot buy contentment. It can contribute to memories for sure, I can look back in euphoria and believe that doing this or that due to being able to afford to was a great time. But was it really? Yes and no - there were good elements to it but it didn't buy me inner bliss. It didn't buy me inner love. It didn't buy me inner wisdom. It didn't buy me true faith. This things can be found only within myself rich or poor. Stress deteriorates well being. So is the pursuit of financial wealth worth it?
I know in this country money drives the society. This current Government are supporters of private enterprise and self gain. I prefer to be a more socialist person and share the wealth so that everyone can have a taste of good living. Of course I can be selfish, very selfish. I want nice things and more of them. I want private healthcare so that I don't have to wait and worry about second rate service, I want a nice car, I want to travel and bathe in different cultures and experience different parts of this glorious world, I want I want I want. But the more I have the more I want. This is not necessary. You see I love to learn and I learn through travels. But I can do that any time if I just trust. I have legs to carry me. IN reality that's all I need. But no I want to be able to do it with comforts and certainty.
It appears as if money buys certainty. I think if we look closer then it really doesn't.
I wonder what your Priest would say about your question. I'd like to know more of what your thoughts are to your question.
J can I suggest that each morning you get up slightly earlier and take 30 minutes just to sit in contemplation. Follow your thoughts in your stillness. You may already do something like this. I don't mean in prayer just in quiet contemplation. Take yourself to a quiet room and ask that your wife and your mom respect your quiet time. This should become a daily practice. I'd love to say that I am disciplined at it. I am not but I practice at it. I will take my quiet time now as a result of suggesting this to you. I missed it earlier this morning.
I'm glad your wife is supporting your hard work by seeking employment herself. Is she happy to find work? Did you discuss this together? I hope it was a discussion and not a one way conversation on either part.
JK where might I find the Parables in the Bible. Excuse my ignorance. I too am interested to read them. Maybe one per day. I like to discuss these things with people and discover their interpretation. It all helps me to broaden my understanding of this crazy, wonderful world we live in.
You need to make time to visit with your mom you know. Even though you all live in the same house. This may sound crazy, but I think it would be good to invite your mom to join you and your wife for afternoon tea or something. Just sit and chat about anything and nothing - make it a 45 minute together time once a week. Or maybe all take a stroll together.
If it's difficult to live together then you need to make some changes to the ways in which you are living together. You cannot change them - your mom nor your wife but you can change you - that can be thoughts, attitude, action, beliefs.
And don't forget to pray for your mom - pray for her to be happy, healthy and to have prosperity. Pray for he to have everything you desire for yourself.
This has reminded me to pray for my new boss who I find very difficult to be around. I can all too easily blame her for causing my difficulty. She is how she is and it's me that feels the way I do. That is not her fault. So I have to find ways to be tolerant and patient and understanding. I need to listen to her. I have become aware that she does not respond well to me making suggestions even when it might be to help her understand the system. She for some reason needs to be in total control. So I can be humble. That is not forsaking myself, that is a choice to let her have the power that seems to need to feel safe. It is hard work for me to do this and very so often I forget during the day. I can feel the need because it gets stressful and emotionally draining again. That is my signal to myself that I've tried to take some power from her. I am thankful for these reminders even though they hurt me - not physically although it does manifest in physical tiredness. But I notice my intolerance and impatience building up and my anger, which can result in energising itself through behaviour. When I'm gossipping for example this is my anger coming out. I do not like to gossip or to be nasty about anyone. When I get to that stage it requires more urgent action.
You see I am beginning to become very much more aware and listen to the signs God creates in me. Then I can choose to be different and maintain my serenity once again. By the grace of God .....
So J. I need to phone a car insurance company now. I dread this as I really cannot afford it and yet I cannot get out of this village to work without a car. I am dependant and can get stressed by this. I need to trust that God is taking care of my needs even though at times I do not understand the way He does this.
So now I need to have the courage to call. I am always scared that they will judge me - points on my licence, an accident and last year I was refused insurance because I gave some false information. I feel so ashamed. I didn't do it on purpose but I feel ashamed anyway. So then I get scared to call and then time passes and it becomes more urgent and then I end up making more mistakes.
This is insanity- so instead I need to be responsible and make the calls. I have a couple to make.
Thank you for listening to me.
Sending you strength and praying for your faith to be strong.
With peaceful thoughts"
Bliss
X
