Hmm do I or don't I?
The boss-lady is back and instantly this morning she engaged me in a discussion that ends up with her simply contradicting. She raises these questions knowing that she is going to pout her view across and anyone else's is invalid. I forget every time and wonder why I am entering into an argument which is just nonsense. I would like to remember to step aside from the debates as they are simply not debates they are going to be her telling her thoughts and everyone else is wrong!!
God help me, guide me in what to do please.
I met with F who basically said these are my options
1. I do nothing and hope things improve
2. I leave
3. I take this to a level of grievance which is a lengthy and nasty procedure. Legalities become involved and it could mean one or other is suspend whilst investigations take place. This was in connection with mentioning the word bullying.
4. I enter into mediated meetings and discussions. This requires input and energy to find a way through to a solution
The last one seems the most frightening. Well that is because I have completely discarded option 3. It's just not that serious an issue for me. I am unhappy in the workplace though working for her.
So do I go for option 4 or 1. After all I am hoping for option 2 but with some resolution for me, myself and I with the way this boss-lady is but how I learn to accept the situation and strengthen my resolve to her.
It's just horrible though. It's not possible to do my work and feel comfortable. Of course really, deep down, I want her to change and be changed. I want the management to see the problem and sort her out. Bloody hell! What am I to do?
Sketching helps.
And talking with friends. Laughed and empathised and hypothesised with V this evening. A great chat with all sorts of topics covered. One hopes that sketches are not offence.
So what happened today other than the crazy conversation. So many times i wanted to jump in and have an organised procedure around this or that. But thank goodness I am learning to keep my mouth firmly shut. She does not want procedural things raised. So just get on with what I am doing and let go. Trust that anything untoward will come to light and I do not have to be the one who says anything.
S was very touchy feely I noticed. I wonder if she was very stressed last week, hence the rushing around and super controlling. And then big apologies afterwards with hugs and friendliness.
I am dreading supervision tomorrow. I think whilst I consider the options I will keep my mouth closed. After all I'll only be disagreed with anyway. Be quite and stay out of trouble. It's so much easier.
I want a drink. A Tea Pig Peppermint and Liquorice. I'll be right back.
In group this morning I was back in the uncertainty of what to do or say. I asked a couple of questions and sat back. She did nothing really although I liked the way she asked if what others started talking about was helpful to the person who had initiated a discussion around what was going on for them and was slightly hi-jacked. I would like to remember that.
Sometimes I do think she asks very good questions within the Process Group. It's just that she sees her way as the only way and my way as the wrong way. She cannot incorporate both as potential ways to reach a similar point but from different directions.
Thank goodness none of the others can work with it the way it is. Otherwise it's all me!!
I am tired really and writing drivel. I will have my drink and then off to bed.
Night all
Bliss
XX
The boss-lady is back and instantly this morning she engaged me in a discussion that ends up with her simply contradicting. She raises these questions knowing that she is going to pout her view across and anyone else's is invalid. I forget every time and wonder why I am entering into an argument which is just nonsense. I would like to remember to step aside from the debates as they are simply not debates they are going to be her telling her thoughts and everyone else is wrong!!
God help me, guide me in what to do please.
I met with F who basically said these are my options
1. I do nothing and hope things improve
2. I leave
3. I take this to a level of grievance which is a lengthy and nasty procedure. Legalities become involved and it could mean one or other is suspend whilst investigations take place. This was in connection with mentioning the word bullying.
4. I enter into mediated meetings and discussions. This requires input and energy to find a way through to a solution
The last one seems the most frightening. Well that is because I have completely discarded option 3. It's just not that serious an issue for me. I am unhappy in the workplace though working for her.
So do I go for option 4 or 1. After all I am hoping for option 2 but with some resolution for me, myself and I with the way this boss-lady is but how I learn to accept the situation and strengthen my resolve to her.
It's just horrible though. It's not possible to do my work and feel comfortable. Of course really, deep down, I want her to change and be changed. I want the management to see the problem and sort her out. Bloody hell! What am I to do?
Sketching helps.
And talking with friends. Laughed and empathised and hypothesised with V this evening. A great chat with all sorts of topics covered. One hopes that sketches are not offence.
So what happened today other than the crazy conversation. So many times i wanted to jump in and have an organised procedure around this or that. But thank goodness I am learning to keep my mouth firmly shut. She does not want procedural things raised. So just get on with what I am doing and let go. Trust that anything untoward will come to light and I do not have to be the one who says anything.
S was very touchy feely I noticed. I wonder if she was very stressed last week, hence the rushing around and super controlling. And then big apologies afterwards with hugs and friendliness.
I am dreading supervision tomorrow. I think whilst I consider the options I will keep my mouth closed. After all I'll only be disagreed with anyway. Be quite and stay out of trouble. It's so much easier.
I want a drink. A Tea Pig Peppermint and Liquorice. I'll be right back.
In group this morning I was back in the uncertainty of what to do or say. I asked a couple of questions and sat back. She did nothing really although I liked the way she asked if what others started talking about was helpful to the person who had initiated a discussion around what was going on for them and was slightly hi-jacked. I would like to remember that.
Sometimes I do think she asks very good questions within the Process Group. It's just that she sees her way as the only way and my way as the wrong way. She cannot incorporate both as potential ways to reach a similar point but from different directions.
Thank goodness none of the others can work with it the way it is. Otherwise it's all me!!
I am tired really and writing drivel. I will have my drink and then off to bed.
Night all
Bliss
XX
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